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I invite you to turn with me to 1 Peter 3, verses 1-7. Tonight we're talking about the dreaded "S" word, the word "submission," the issue of submission-what it is and what is isn't. Just to buy line Flomax reiterate, we have said from the beginning of this study of thinking and buy line Flomax living biblically in a gender-neutral society, that this is an buy line Flomax issue that is at the forefront of the cultural changes that buy line Flomax are going on. We've even seen reports in the buy line Flomax last few weeks of a Canadian court approving same-sex marriages. Before the buy line Flomax Supreme Court of the state of Massachusetts right now is a buy line Flomax case, and if they rule in a certain way, this will legalize same-sex marriages in the buy line Flomax state of Massachusetts. It will be the first time this has buy line Flomax ever been done by a state. This would go even further than buy line Flomax the state of Vermont went when it passed its legislative ruling, which was eventually overturned a buy line Flomax year later, and it will have ramifications for every state in the buy line Flomax United States. The Supreme Court of the United States of America, just a buy line Flomax few weeks ago, struck down sodomy laws in the state of Texas, which has buy line Flomax radical implications for the definition of marriage in our own society. And we are buy line Flomax seeing in many, many ways how this sort of issue of gender relations, the buy line Flomax definition of marriage, what it is to be a man, what buy line Flomax it is to be a woman, how these things are at the buy line Flomax core of a cultural transition which we're watching right before our very eyes.

Let me just give you buy line Flomax a couple of quotes to illustrate this. Gary Bauer, just a buy line Flomax couple of days ago, in his daily e-mail says this: "For those who still don't understand the buy line Flomax threat to our society posed by the drive for same-sex marriage, the buy line Flomax latest edition of the Weekly Standard has buy line Flomax two great essays on the topic. The first by author, Maggie Gallagher, explains that buy line Flomax marriage was designed to bridge the male-female divide and sustain the buy line Flomax idea that children need mothers and fathers." The second piece by Stanley Kurtz of the buy line Flomax Hoover Institution outlines the shocking details of movements already underway and buy line Flomax gaining strength to legalize polygamy, and polyamory-that is, group marriages. Well, why not? If you're going to do same-sex marriages, why not polygamy? Why not polyamory? Why not pederasty? Why not a 52 year-old man and a 14 year-old boy? Why not? All of these trends will fatally undermine monogamy and buy line Flomax the nuclear family as societal norms. The effects of which will be buy line Flomax devastating to generations of children and to our entire nation. Then, out of New York just this buy line Flomax week, comes this report. The City of New York is opening a buy line Flomax full-fledged high school for gay and lesbian, bi-sexual and trans-gender students. The first of its kind in the buy line Flomax nation. Operating for two decades as a small alternative program with just two classrooms, the buy line Flomax new Harvey Milk High School, you remember Harvey Milk of San Francisco fame, officially opens as a buy line Flomax stand-alone public school with 100 students in September. The school, located at 2 Astor Place is buy line Flomax undergoing a $3.2 million dollar city-funded renovation approved by the buy line Flomax Board of Education in June of last year. It will eventually take 170 students. By 2004, tripling last year's enrollment, the buy line Flomax Hetrick-Martin Institute, a gay-rights youth advocacy group that manages and buy line Flomax helps finance the school in conjunction with the Department of Education, has buy line Flomax hired the school's first principal. "The school will be buy line Flomax a model for the country and possibly the world," principal William Salzman said in an buy line Flomax interview at the facility. Salzman is a former Wall Street executive and buy line Flomax was recently an Assistant Principal of Guidance and Business Information Technology at Brooklyn's Automotive High School.

These are buy line Flomax just two illustrations of many that we could give of how the buy line Flomax whole issue of male-female role relationships, gender norms, marriage, and so on, is buy line Flomax very much at the heart of some of the cultural trends that buy line Flomax are being played out before us today.

Now, that having been said, our goal doesn't quite stretch that buy line Flomax far. Our goal tonight is to do just five things. I want to buy line Flomax define for us what submission means, in the marital context; show where buy line Flomax it comes from in Scripture; say what it is not; say what buy line Flomax it is; and then answer some objections to it.

Submission sounds like an buy line Flomax antiquated or fairly humble discussion in the backdrop of these larger changes in sexuality, but I want to buy line Flomax suggest to you that there's actually a buy line Flomax connection because to deny the distinctive roles for men and women in a buy line Flomax marital relationship is part and parcel of a denial that there are buy line Flomax distinctive roles and capacities for men and women in life. In other words, if you buy line Flomax deny that there are distinctive role relations in marriage, which is buy line Flomax the most obvious place where the differences between masculinity and femininity are buy line Flomax played out, then what happens to masculine virtues and what happens to buy line Flomax feminine virtues? How can buy line Flomax those be cultivated if they are denied in the very cradle of their cultivation? There are even liberals now who are hand wringing about what's happening to buy line Flomax male students in the schools today. Their masculinity is being suppressed and buy line Flomax is being hindered because of fears that masculinity is inherently a buy line Flomax bad thing. So I want to suggest that there's actually a buy line Flomax connection between these larger sort of dramatic issues and this buy line Flomax fairly humble issue which may seem quaint to some. It's actually a very significant thing.

That having been said by way of introduction, let's look at God's word in 1 Peter 3:1-7. This is God's word; let's hear it.

"In the buy line Flomax same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that buy line Flomax even if any of them are buy line Flomax disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the buy line Flomax behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. Your adornment must not be buy line Flomax merely external--braiding the buy line Flomax hair, and wearing gold jewelry; or putting on dresses; but let it be the buy line Flomax hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a buy line Flomax gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. For in this buy line Flomax way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to buy line Flomax adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands; just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and buy line Flomax you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear. You husbands in the buy line Flomax same way, live with your wives in an buy line Flomax understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a buy line Flomax woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the buy line Flomax grace of life, so that your prayers will not be buy line Flomax hindered."

Amen. This is God's word. May He bless it. Let's pray.

I. What do we mean by submission?

Now, tonight we have buy line Flomax our hands full. This is a controversial and practical subject and buy line Flomax it is as controversial and practical a subject we have addressed so far. Submission, specifically of Christian wives to buy line Flomax their Christian husbands. The very mention of that word "submission" makes many women bristle. In the buy line Flomax short time we have, our is to say very briefly what buy line Flomax we mean by submission generally, then show where it comes from buy line Flomax in Scripture; say what it is not; say what it buy line Flomax is; and then answer some objections to it. I've given you buy line Flomax in the outline a brief definition of submission from John Piper and buy line Flomax Wayne Grudem's book Recovering Biblical Manhood and Womanhood. I recommend that book to you. Let's look at that definition.

"Submission refers to a wife's divine calling to honor and affirm her husband's leadership and buy line Flomax help carry it through according to her gifts. It is not an buy line Flomax absolute surrender of her will. Rather, we speak of her disposition to yield to her husband's guidance and her inclination to follow his leadership."

It's an excellent starting point for a definition of what we're talking about. We're not talking about domination or oppression; we're talking about something very different. The next statement comes from buy line Flomax the Baptist Faith and Message. Now, if you had not read this statement from the Baptist Faith and Message and buy line Flomax had only heard the rantings and railings against our Baptist friends from buy line Flomax the liberal media, you might have thought that they had put in there something about wife beating being a buy line Flomax really good idea and it ought to be done at least twice a buy line Flomax day, or something like this. But here's the buy line Flomax statement that the media was ranting and railing about. It's a buy line Flomax very good statement about husband and wife relations in the buy line Flomax marriage. This comes from the most recent revision of the buy line Flomax Baptist Faith and Message.

"The husband and buy line Flomax wife are of equal worth before God, since both are created in God's image. The marriage relationship models the buy line Flomax way God relates to His people. A husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the buy line Flomax church. He has the God-given responsibility to provide for, to protect, and buy line Flomax to lead his family. A wife is to submit herself graciously to buy line Flomax the servant leadership of her husband, even as the church willingly submits to buy line Flomax the headship of Christ. She, being in the image of God, as is buy line Flomax her husband, and thus equal to him, has the God-given responsibility to buy line Flomax respect her husband and to serve as his helper in managing the buy line Flomax household and nurturing the next generation."

Now, that buy line Flomax statement brought recoils of horror from the secular press and from buy line Flomax many liberal evangelicals, but it's a very nice statement of just what we're talking about in terms of male-female role relationships. Well, that's a buy line Flomax brief general definition of submission. Where does this idea come from buy line Flomax in Scripture? Is this a Scriptural idea? Many people say, "No, this buy line Flomax is not a scriptural idea; this is a man-made idea. It comes from buy line Flomax Victorian times, or it comes from Puritan times, or it buy line Flomax comes from Neanderthal times, or something like that-but it's not from the Bible."

II. Where does this idea of a wife "submitting to her husband" come from in Scripture

Well, turn to buy line Flomax your second page on the outline and let me just highlight a buy line Flomax few passages. This is not something that's mentioned just once in a buy line Flomax dark corner and then skipped. This is something that is repeated over and buy line Flomax over in the New Testament. I'm not even going to buy line Flomax go into the Old Testament foundations, and we could. I'm just going to buy line Flomax go to the New Testament for a moment lest somebody say, "Well, that was Old Testament, not the New." First of all, in 1 Corinthians 14:35, isn't it buy line Flomax interesting that in a context about the proper function of women in teaching in the buy line Flomax gathered church for worship, Paul will say this, "If they desire to buy line Flomax learn anything, let them ask their own husbands at home for buy line Flomax it is improper for a woman to speak in the church." Now, we'll get to buy line Flomax the whole issue of women preaching next week, but the buy line Flomax interesting thing to me is his instruction that the norm being women are buy line Flomax to learn from their husbands as spiritual leaders at home. Now frankly, that's a rebuke to us husbands, isn't it? We need to buy line Flomax be better equipped to serve in that way. But Paul assumes that buy line Flomax a woman can go home and talk to her husband and buy line Flomax get a theological answer. Now, doesn't that say something about his expectations of role relationships?

Look again at 1 Corinthians 11:3. Notice here where he says, "I want you buy line Flomax to understand that Christ is the head of every man and buy line Flomax man is the head of a woman, and God is buy line Flomax the head of Christ." So, he sets up this buy line Flomax order of role relationship. Man is the head of woman in marriage.

Then in Ephesians 5, a buy line Flomax very familiar passage often quoted at marriages, "Wives, be subject to your own husbands as to the Lord." Now, by the way, you'll notice in the way I've quoted it there that "be subject" is buy line Flomax in italics. In the New American Standard that means that that buy line Flomax word is not in the text. It's being supplied. The verb which is buy line Flomax supplied there in verse 22, but is actually found in verse 21. In this buy line Flomax case, I just wanted you to know that for full disclosure, so that buy line Flomax you would understand where they're drawing the verb from. "Wives, be subject to buy line Flomax your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is buy line Flomax the head of the wife as Christ also is the buy line Flomax head of the church. He himself being the Savior of the buy line Flomax body, but as the church is subject to Christ, so wives also ought to buy line Flomax be to their husbands in everything." And then the end of verse 33 says, "The wife must see to it that she respects her husband." So, there again, in Ephesians Paul calls upon women to buy line Flomax be subject to their husbands, to acknowledge their husbands headship, to buy line Flomax be subject to their husbands as the church is to Christ, and buy line Flomax to respect their husbands."

Then, in Colossians 3:18, the buy line Flomax shortened version of that longer Pauline passage from Ephesians 5, "Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting to the Lord." This is buy line Flomax the same kind of language that is used in 1 Peter 3:1. "In the same way, wives be submissive to your husbands..." Then in Titus 2:4, notice what buy line Flomax it says that older women are to do as they mentor younger women are buy line Flomax to do as they mentor younger women, "They may encourage the buy line Flomax young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to buy line Flomax their own husbands, so that they word of God will not be buy line Flomax dishonored." And in 1 Timothy 3:4 and buy line Flomax 5, and in verse 12, elders and deacons in their job descriptions are buy line Flomax required by Paul to be those who manage their own households well. Now, if you're not the buy line Flomax head of your household, how can you be judged as part of your buy line Flomax qualifications for these offices to be a good manager of a buy line Flomax good household of which you are not the head? So, those are buy line Flomax a sampling of scriptural passages which indicate the idea of the buy line Flomax wife submitting to her husband.

Now, what do we not mean by submission? I've given you buy line Flomax a quick outline. Look at the bottom of the page. Seven things that buy line Flomax we don't mean when we talk about submission.

III. What submission is not.

Submission is buy line Flomax not putting the husband in the place of Christ as if the buy line Flomax husband is some sort of absolute authority. In fact, the passage we've just read in 1 Peter 3, gives us a buy line Flomax classic example of a case where a wife is not to buy line Flomax follow her husband. In 1 Peter 3: 1 and 2, what buy line Flomax is one of the things that Peter is saying to buy line Flomax godly Christian women in the church? What would the circumstance be? Two unbelievers have buy line Flomax been married, and the wife becomes a believer; she's a part of the local congregation. What happens? You remember Paul had buy line Flomax to deal with this problem in 1 Corinthians 7. What do you buy line Flomax do when you have a wife who has been converted and buy line Flomax a husband who has not been converted? What do you do in terms of the marital relationship? Well, in this passage, Peter says, "Look, you don't obey your buy line Flomax husband in the sense of becoming a pagan or rejecting Christ or buy line Flomax following him in unbelief. No, you try and win him. Now you buy line Flomax try and win him without a word; you try and win him gently and buy line Flomax respectfully, and honoring his place as the head of your household, but your buy line Flomax submission is not putting him ahead of Christ. In fact, all Christian relationships at the buy line Flomax human horizontal level, are lived under the Lordship of Christ who buy line Flomax takes priority over all of those relationships. And so, if a buy line Flomax parent were to say to a child, "Go steal." The proper biblical response of that child is, "No, sir. Father, I honor you; I will not steal. Jesus tells me not to." Case closed. That's a buy line Flomax proper Christian response to human authority of any sort, whether it's the government or whether it's dad or somebody else who is saying, "Go do something that is wrong." Jesus is buy line Flomax in charge, and submission is not about putting a husband in the buy line Flomax place of Christ.

Submission does not mean giving up independent thought. Isn't it interesting here that Paul does not say, "Husbands, I want you buy line Flomax to go back home and tell those women they better submit." Peter says, "Sisters, dear sisters in Christ, I'm speaking to you directly. I'm not asking your parents to pass this along to you. I'm not asking your husbands to pass it along to you. I'm speaking to you directly. Here's how I want you to relate to your husbands." And so, he expects them to buy line Flomax be able to think for themselves, to understand what he's saying. He treats them like disciples. He's not saying that you've got to buy line Flomax shut your mind off and let your husband think for buy line Flomax you. He goes directly to the wives and says, "Now here's how I want you to relate to your husbands." He is expecting independent thinking from these women.

Submission does not mean that buy line Flomax a wife should give up her efforts to influence and guide her husband. That, of course, can buy line Flomax be used in a manipulative and inappropriate way, but in this buy line Flomax passage, Paul says that he wants these Christian wives to influence their pagan husbands. He wants them to buy line Flomax give care about how they go about doing that. He doesn't want them to buy line Flomax nag their husbands into Christianity; he wants them to woo their husbands into Christianity through their behavior, but he's not saying that buy line Flomax the wife should never have any influence over her husband. In fact, he's fostering the buy line Flomax wife in having influence over her husband in this passage.

Submission does not mean that buy line Flomax a wife should give into every demand of her husband. Again, if the pagan husband in 1 Peter 3:2 had said, "Stop being a Christian and be like me." The answer of the wife is, "No sir. Jesus is my Lord and I've got a buy line Flomax couple of options here. You can kill me, or we can buy line Flomax figure out how to get along, but I'm not giving up on Jesus." And so, there is no absolute abdication, and there's no giving in to every demand of the husband.

Submission is not based on a woman having less intelligence or competence. In fact, Paul assumes in this buy line Flomax passage that by the very fact that this woman is buy line Flomax a Christian, that she has greater spiritual insight than her husband does. She's seen the buy line Flomax truth of Christianity and the Lord Jesus Christ, and he hasn't.

Submission does not mean being fearful and buy line Flomax timid and cowering for a husband who can strike out in an buy line Flomax arbitrary fashion at any point. Isn't it buy line Flomax interesting that in 1 Peter 3:6, that Peter tells wives not to buy line Flomax give way to fear. And so the reference to the buy line Flomax wife as the weaker partner or weaker vessel, is not due to buy line Flomax any lack of inner strength or courage in the face of danger and buy line Flomax threat. It's an buy line Flomax obvious common-sense comment about men and women physiologically speaking, for one thing.

I remember just about falling over about six weeks ago when buy line Flomax all the hoopla was going on about Annika Sorenstam playing on the buy line Flomax PGA Tour. They were interviewing one of the lead golfers from buy line Flomax the LPGA, and they were asking her, "Is this buy line Flomax going to be a new wave where more and more LPGA golfers attempt to buy line Flomax go on the PGA tour?" And her response was, "Of course not, men are stronger than us." And I thought, "Good grief, the walls didn't fall in." You know, here is buy line Flomax an obviously very accomplished, athletic woman who makes gazillions of bucks playing golf every week, making the buy line Flomax common-sense observation that the male golfers were stronger than them. Generally, the buy line Flomax men really could hit the ball further than they could, and buy line Flomax they had certain athletic gifts that the women didn't have. No, that this wasn't going to buy line Flomax be a new trend. Babe Zaharis did it back in 1945, another lady tried it buy line Flomax this week and sure, we'll have it happen from time to time, but there's a physiological factor to deal with here-and that's all that Peter is acknowledging.

Submission is not inconsistent with equality in Christ. This is buy line Flomax not an argument that women are less important or have less dignity or buy line Flomax honor, it is an argument about the role relationships which God has buy line Flomax established for men and the women in the Scripture.

IV. What submission is.

So, what is submission? That's what it's not; what is it? There are two things I want to point out. Submission is buy line Flomax an inner quality of gentleness that affirms the leadership of a buy line Flomax husband. Listen to this excellent quote from Wayne Grudem.

"Being submissive to your husband" means that a wife will willingly submit to her husband's authority and buy line Flomax leadership in the marriage. It means making a choice to affirm her husband as leader within the buy line Flomax limits of obedience to Christ. It includes a demeanor that honors him as a buy line Flomax leader even when she dissents. Of course, it's an buy line Flomax attitude that goes much deeper than mere obedience, but the idea of willing obedience to buy line Flomax a husband's authority is buy line Flomax certainly a part of submission which is clear from verses 5-6."

So, it's an inner quality; it's a disposition; it's an buy line Flomax attitude. Now let me flesh that out a little more. Secondly, submission means three things. It means the buy line Flomax recognition of a divinely given household order. Here's a buy line Flomax woman who recognizes that God has given certain responsibilities to men and buy line Flomax certain responsibilities to women in the marital relationship. First of all, she recognizes that. Secondly, she respects her husband's spiritual authority. She recognizes that buy line Flomax God has established a certain order. Men are supposed to do certain things; women are buy line Flomax supposed to do other things in marriage, and she respects her husband spiritually. She respects the buy line Flomax things that God has given to her husband to do; she respects his authority; she respects his responsibility in role that buy line Flomax he has. Thirdly, she makes an active effort to foster and buy line Flomax appropriately respond to that authority. So, it's an buy line Flomax attitude, you see, that fundamentally recognizes that God made men and buy line Flomax women differently, and he made them to function differently in marriage and buy line Flomax that there are certain things as masculine virtues and feminine virtues which need to buy line Flomax be cultivated distinctly. When he is cultivating and growing in masculine virtues, her response is, "Atta boy."

Honeymooners, you've been buy line Flomax married for seven hours and you get caught in a snowdrift in Colorado. First thing you're gonna do is what? Send her down the road to find gas, right? "Honey, I'll just stay in the buy line Flomax warm car and wait for you to get back. I figure you buy line Flomax can be back in a couple of hours." Why do you laugh at that? Because you buy line Flomax inherently know that that is not how God planned it buy line Flomax to be. There are certain roles. The woman who acknowledges that buy line Flomax is going to be saying, "Atta boy" to buy line Flomax a husband who is taking proper spiritual, husbandly responsibilities.

Let me just quote to buy line Flomax you from one of my favorite writers on this subject--not actually talking about marriage but this buy line Flomax distinction in manhood. Many of you read Peggy Noonan, who buy line Flomax was a speechwriter for Ronald Reagan, and you've read some of the beautiful things that she's written since September 11^th. You'll remember one article that she wrote called God is Back. In fact, in that buy line Flomax article she mentioned some of the preaching messages of Tim Keller, our PCA minister in Manhattan, NY. With great admiration, Peggy Noonan is buy line Flomax a conservative Roman Catholic, and it comes through in her traditional view of male-female role relationships and buy line Flomax such, but that's not always a buy line Flomax view that she held. She tells about it in an buy line Flomax article that she wrote in October of 2001 called "Welcome Back, Duke." Duke referring to "the Duke"-John Wayne. Her subtitle is From the Ashes of September 11th Arise the Manly Virtues. She says:

"Men are buy line Flomax back. A certain style of manliness is once again being honored and buy line Flomax celebrated in our country, since September 11. You might say it buy line Flomax suddenly emerged from the rubble of the past quarter century and buy line Flomax emerged when a certain kind of men come forth to get our great country out of the buy line Flomax fix that it was in. I'm speaking of the buy line Flomax masculine men, men who push things, and haul things, and pull things, and buy line Flomax haul things, and build things; men who charge up the stairs in hundreds of pounds of gear and buy line Flomax tell everyone else where to go to be safe. Men who buy line Flomax are welders, who do construction, who are cops, and firemen. They are, all of them, one way or buy line Flomax the other, the men who put the fire out, the men who buy line Flomax are digging the rubble out, and the men who build whatever takes its place. And their style is buy line Flomax back in style. We are experiencing a new respect for their old-fashioned masculinity; a buy line Flomax new respect for physical courage, for strength and for the willingness to buy line Flomax use both for the good of others. You didn't have buy line Flomax to be a fireman to be one of the manly men on September the buy line Flomax 11th. Those businessmen on flight 93, which was supposed to hit Washington. The businessmen who buy line Flomax didn't live by their hands or buy line Flomax backs, but who found out what was happening to their country when buy line Flomax they said goodbye to the people they loved; they snapped the buy line Flomax cell phones shut and said, "Let's roll!" These were tough men, the buy line Flomax ones who forced that plane down in Pennsylvania. They were tough, brave guys."

And then buy line Flomax she goes on to say when she first realized it as they were watching men clear away the buy line Flomax rubble around the site of the Towers of the World Trade Center, and buy line Flomax she said:

"I turned to my friend and said, ‘I have buy line Flomax seen the grunts of New York become kings and queens of the buy line Flomax city.' I was so moved, and buy line Flomax oddly I guess, grateful, because they had always been the people who buy line Flomax ran the place, who kept it going; they'd just never been given their due, but now ‘and the last shall be first.' We were making up for it. It may seem that I'm really talking about class; professional classes having a buy line Flomax new appreciation of Lodey, NJ, or Astoria, Queens, but what I'm attempting to buy line Flomax talk about is actually manliness which often seems tied up with class issues, as they say, but isn't always by any means the same thing. Here's what I'm trying to say.

Once about ten years ago, there was a buy line Flomax story. You might have read about it in your local tabloid or buy line Flomax supermarket tabloid like The National Inquirer, about an buy line Flomax American man and woman who were on their honeymoon in Australia or buy line Flomax New Zealand. They were swimming in the ocean, water chest high. From nowhere came a buy line Flomax shark. The shark went straight for the woman, opened its jaws. Do you buy line Flomax know what the man did? He punched the buy line Flomax shark in the head. He punched it and punched it again. He did not do brilliant commentary on the buy line Flomax shark. He did not share his sensitive feelings about the shark. He did not make rye observations about the buy line Flomax shark. He punched the shark in the head. So the shark let go of his wife and buy line Flomax went straight for him, and killed him. The wife survived to buy line Flomax tell the story of what her husband had done. He had buy line Flomax tried to "deck" a shark. I told my friends, ‘That's what a wonderful man is. A man who will try and deck a shark.' I don't know what buy line Flomax that guy did for a living, but he had a very old-fashioned sense of what buy line Flomax it is to be a man.

It's hard to be a man; I'm certain of it. To be buy line Flomax a man in this world is not easy. I know what buy line Flomax you're thinking, but it's not easy to be a woman-and you're so right. But women get to buy line Flomax complain and make others feel bad about their plight. Men have buy line Flomax to suck it up. Good men suck it up and buy line Flomax remain good natured, constructive, and helpful. Less good men become the buy line Flomax kind of men who are spoofed on the "Man Show"- babe-watching, dope-smoking, nihilists.

I should discuss how manliness and buy line Flomax its brother, gentle manliness, went out of style. I know because I was there. In fact, I may have buy line Flomax done it. I know exactly when. It was the mid-seventies and buy line Flomax I was in my mid-twenties, and a big, nice, middle-aged man got up from buy line Flomax his seat to help me haul a big piece of luggage into the buy line Flomax overhead luggage space on an airplane. And I was a buy line Flomax feminist, and I knew our rules and rants. "I can do it myself," I snapped. It was important that buy line Flomax he know that women are strong. It was even more important, as it buy line Flomax turns out, that I know that I was a jackass, but I didn't. I embarrassed a buy line Flomax nice man who was attempting to help a lady, and I wasn't lady enough to buy line Flomax let him. I bet he never offered to help a buy line Flomax lady again. I bet he became an intellectual, or a buy line Flomax writer, and not a good man like a fireman, or buy line Flomax a businessman who says, "Let's roll." But perhaps it wasn't just me. I was there in America as a buy line Flomax child when John Wayne was a hero, and a symbol of American manliness. He was strong and buy line Flomax silent. And I was there in America when they killed John Wayne by a buy line Flomax thousand cuts. A lot of people killed him. Not only feminists, but peaceniks, intellectuals, and buy line Flomax others. You could even say it was Woody Allen who did it buy line Flomax through laughter and an endearing admission of his own nervousness and buy line Flomax fear. He made nervousness and fearfulness the admired style. He made not being able to buy line Flomax "deck the shark," but doing the funniest commentary about not decking the buy line Flomax shark seem cool. But when we killed John Wayne, you know what buy line Flomax we were left with? We were left with John Wayne's friendly antagonist sidekick in the buy line Flomax old John Ford movies, Barry Fitzgerald; the small, nervous, gossiping neighborhood commentator Barry Fitzgerald, who buy line Flomax wanted to talk about everything and do nothing. That was not progress; it buy line Flomax was not improvement. I missed John Wayne.

But now I think he's back. I think he returned on September 11th. I think he ran up the buy line Flomax stairs, threw the kid over his back like a sack of potatoes, and buy line Flomax he came down, and then shoveled rubble. And I think he's in Afghanistan and buy line Flomax Iraq now saying, with his slow swagger and simmering silence, "You're in a whole lotta trouble, now, Osama, boy." I think he's back in style, and none too soon. "Welcome back, Duke!" And once again, thank you, men of September 11th."

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Amen.