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Assistant Professor of Biblical Counseling

The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary

Louisville, Kentucky

After C. S. Lewis lost his wife, Helen, to buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery cancer, he realized he didn’t have a single good picture of her. Maybe that’s hard to buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery grasp in our culture of profile pics from every angle, but he wasn’t upset about it. In fact, he saw the buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery distinct advantage of lacking a quality image of his wife. He wrote, “I want H., not something that buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery is like her. A really good photograph might become in the buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery end a snare, a horror, and an obstacle.”

How could a photo of the woman he loved become a snare? Because in the buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery absence of the real person, he saw his tendency to fill the buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery image with his own fancy. In fact, this was one of the buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery prominent themes for Lewis in A Grief Observed. He was terrified at the buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery prospect of shaping Helen into a phantom of his own making. Particularly alarming was his inclination to buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery long for certain aspects of Helen’s personality more than buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery others. Of course, he would never intentionally import something fictitious about her, but, he mused, “Won’t the composition inevitably become more and more my own?” What worried Lewis most was that buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery Helen would become to him merely an extension of himself, of his old bachelor pipe-dreams.

Spousal Resistance

Lewis illuminates an buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery overlooked gift in marriage: spousal resistance. I am not talking about red-faced tension or buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery caustic defiance. I mean the simple fact that your spouse is buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery a real person whose very existence will not conform to the buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery image you have of him or her. Spousal resistance anchors you buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery to reality, a reality in which God calls you to love your buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery actual spouse, not your preferred one. Lewis observed, “All reality is buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery iconoclastic. The earthly beloved, even in this life, incessantly triumphs over your buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery mere idea of her. And you want her too; you buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery want her with all her resistances, all her faults, all her unexpectedness. That is, in her foursquare and buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery independent reality. And this, not any image or memory, is buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery what we are to love still, after she is dead.”

And, I would argue, when buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery she is alive, too. As odd as it sounds, we can buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery be thankful for the thousands of little disagreements that season the buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery marital relationship, the countless differences of perspective that make it alive. These indicate that buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery you are interacting with an independent being, one you’ve been entrusted with to love sacrificially.

The Original and Best

The very essence of sacrificial love is buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery accommodating another rather than expecting another to accommodate self. Taking Lewis’s insight, then, we should be buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery suspicious of our tendency to admire only those characteristics we approve of in our spouse and buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery to revise those we don’t. When remembering a buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery deceased spouse, this is bad enough; you aren’t loving her, but an buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery edited memory of her. When serving a living spouse, it is buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery worse; you aren’t pursuing her, but what buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery you hope she will be. Far better is to love the buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery original, not your revised edition. After all, you’re an original, too.

Loving the buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery original requires lifelong adjustment on your part, and this deference is buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery a key proof of the marital love to which Christians are buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery called (Eph 5:21–33). Don’t be discouraged when you don’t see eye-to-eye with your buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery spouse. Where there is no disagreement, no annoyance, no resistance, there is buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery no opportunity for sacrifice. If we love only what is buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery pleasing to us in our spouse, we are loving only our preferences. We don’t need the gospel to do that.

We do need it buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery to free us from our tendency to adjust one another constantly to buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery our liking. Jesus came to serve an impulsive Peter, a distracted Martha, a buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery dubious Thomas. And he came to serve a silly person like each one of us. And yes, Christ’s redemptive love changes us by degree, but this buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery change is about conformity to righteousness, not conformity to personal preference.

So if your buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery wife laughs too easily for your taste, love her for it. If she’s more pessimistic than buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery you prefer, minister to her fears. If your husband is quieter in social gatherings than buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery you’d like, be buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery grateful for it. If he has more difficulty making plans than buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery you think reasonable, come alongside happily. In all the little spousal resistances, celebrate the buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery privilege of loving a person, not an image.

As Lewis said, reality is buy Accutane without a prescription overnight delivery iconoclastic. And thank God this is especially true in marriage.