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[Editor's note: This post was originally published a Buy Cheap generic Valtrex couple of years ago on C.J. Mahaney's blog, but is Buy Cheap generic Valtrex well worth a revisit in an effort to encourage local church pastors and Buy Cheap generic Valtrex their wives as they serve on the front lines in the Buy Cheap generic Valtrex war for the glory of God.]

In March of 2008, C.J. and Buy Cheap generic Valtrex Carolyn Mahaney addressed a room full of couples being trained for Buy Cheap generic Valtrex pastoral ministry at the Pastors College. Soon these couples were to Buy Cheap generic Valtrex return to their home churches to begin (or resume) the public and transparent life of pastoral ministry.

A question asked by one of the Buy Cheap generic Valtrex wives was simple: How should a wife respond when her pastor-husband is Buy Cheap generic Valtrex criticized? The question was asked in the context of pastor's families, but the answer will likely benefit all married couples.

Question: Carolyn, as a pastor's wife, how do you Buy Cheap generic Valtrex handle situations where your husband is criticized or there is grumbling in the Buy Cheap generic Valtrex church about your husband?

Carolyn: Obviously, it certainly isn't easy to Buy Cheap generic Valtrex have your husband criticized. But as wives, we must recognize our role as our husband's helper and make sure we don't take up an Buy Cheap generic Valtrex offense, which would not be helpful to our husbands. And that Buy Cheap generic Valtrex does not take place without a fight. This is the person you Buy Cheap generic Valtrex love the most in the whole world, and if someone is Buy Cheap generic Valtrex criticizing him, you can be easily offended and want to defend him. Yet, I must realize that Buy Cheap generic Valtrex taking an offense would be a disservice to my husband. So it's important that Buy Cheap generic Valtrex we as wives guard our hearts, making sure we don't take up an offense, seeking to serve our husbands as helpers.

C.J.: Your point is Buy Cheap generic Valtrex an excellent one. There have been many times that I have Buy Cheap generic Valtrex desired Carolyn to take up an offense-"Join me in my offense against this individual." I'm not immediately happy that she hasn't taken an Buy Cheap generic Valtrex offense, but I have learned that eventually she has served me invaluably when Buy Cheap generic Valtrex she does not take up an offense. In no way is Buy Cheap generic Valtrex she defending or justifying what others have said or done, but helping me monitor my heart, and Buy Cheap generic Valtrex impressing upon me that a sinful reaction from me would be Buy Cheap generic Valtrex more serious than whatever they are saying or doing, are the Buy Cheap generic Valtrex most effective ways she can serve me.

Sadly, over the Buy Cheap generic Valtrex years we have witnessed couples in ministry where wives have taken up an Buy Cheap generic Valtrex offense.

And this doesn't just apply to Buy Cheap generic Valtrex sinful criticism, but also to when a husband is legitimately corrected by a Buy Cheap generic Valtrex member of the pastoral team or a member of the church. So you Buy Cheap generic Valtrex need both those categories. It's difficult when Buy Cheap generic Valtrex those serving with your husband correct him in a certain area or Buy Cheap generic Valtrex bring an unfavorable evaluation. A wife might find herself more vulnerable to Buy Cheap generic Valtrex taking up an offense when her husband has been corrected. I am Buy Cheap generic Valtrex grateful for the way Carolyn has served me by not taking up an Buy Cheap generic Valtrex offense. And numerous times she has agreed with the correction, protecting me from Buy Cheap generic Valtrex arrogantly dismissing the correction and preventing me from sowing discord among those I serve in ministry.

So, whether it's sinful criticism or Buy Cheap generic Valtrex legitimate correction of me, how do you guard your heart, Carolyn?

Carolyn: Wives should carefully listen to what's being said. If there is Buy Cheap generic Valtrex something legitimate, bring that lovingly and carefully to your husband. I don't think it Buy Cheap generic Valtrex serves a husband for a wife to just take the side of the Buy Cheap generic Valtrex person bringing criticism. But if there is a degree of truth, bring that Buy Cheap generic Valtrex in a way that serves him.

And just helping to Buy Cheap generic Valtrex mirror back to him what you are hearing him say. If he is Buy Cheap generic Valtrex sinning in response to the criticism, where appropriate, lovingly mirror that Buy Cheap generic Valtrex back to him: "It seems like this is how you are responding. Is this true? Are you offended at this person? Are you bitter?" Asking skillful questions.

It takes a Buy Cheap generic Valtrex lot of prayer and soul-searching in our own hearts to Buy Cheap generic Valtrex keep our hearts free from taking up an offense. But we must have Buy Cheap generic Valtrex a conviction about our role as our husband's helper and ask, "What will truly help my husband?" It will not help him if I'm adding to the temptation he's already experiencing. If he is being corrected or criticized, he's already got a Buy Cheap generic Valtrex battle he is fighting. And if I come along and agree and Buy Cheap generic Valtrex participate in that, it makes his battle more difficult.

My husband has gone through seasons of correction, and it's a Buy Cheap generic Valtrex temptation and fight. So I find myself having to pray for Buy Cheap generic Valtrex those who bring criticism or correction and filling my own heart with appropriate Scriptures so I can Buy Cheap generic Valtrex be a true helper to him during that time.

C.J.: Yes, but where Buy Cheap generic Valtrex they have been accurate observations-whether critics analyzing or friends correcting-you have Buy Cheap generic Valtrex courageously transferred that to me. Too often I have not been Buy Cheap generic Valtrex grateful in the moment. Eventually, I am grateful.

Would you Buy Cheap generic Valtrex say that one of the biggest challenges these ladies will confront as pastors wives is Buy Cheap generic Valtrex will be-when they hear the criticism or correction and they find there are Buy Cheap generic Valtrex aspects they agree with-how to inform their husbands of that without appearing to Buy Cheap generic Valtrex support any sinful attitude of others?

Carolyn: Yes. And I have through the years seen wives not do that, I've seen the Buy Cheap generic Valtrex effect and the outcome, and it has put the fear of God in me. At the Buy Cheap generic Valtrex moment it's not always easy to take a stand and say, "I don't think you're responding humbly to this situation right now." And it takes courage. Yet we've seen, because we've been Buy Cheap generic Valtrex in ministry for as many as we have, some very sad situations where Buy Cheap generic Valtrex I think wives really could have been the difference-maker if they would have Buy Cheap generic Valtrex challenged or confronted their husbands.

C.J.: So wouldn't you Buy Cheap generic Valtrex say that over the years that some wives misunderstood submission and Buy Cheap generic Valtrex honor (or so it appears)? I think that Buy Cheap generic Valtrex has played a role. And for some it could be fear of man-fear of husband.

I can Buy Cheap generic Valtrex tell you this: For any marriage, correction of the husband by the Buy Cheap generic Valtrex wife would be one category on my short list of most important. If I observed a Buy Cheap generic Valtrex wife who was reluctant to correct her husband I would be Buy Cheap generic Valtrex concerned with that marriage. Obviously, I'm not arguing for Buy Cheap generic Valtrex a contentious marriage, but correction, humbly communicated, must be part of every marriage.

Part of what Buy Cheap generic Valtrex Carolyn has modeled personally and taught well is what she taught at the Buy Cheap generic Valtrex last Leadership Conference-"Watch Your Man"-in broadening an understanding and application of "helper" to Buy Cheap generic Valtrex include appropriate correction. I would argue that correction is not just part of marriage but an Buy Cheap generic Valtrex aspect of what it means to be fellow heirs of the Buy Cheap generic Valtrex grace of life.

Carolyn's encouragement has Buy Cheap generic Valtrex been of immeasurable benefit to me, but equally so or more, on balance, has Buy Cheap generic Valtrex been her correction. She has protected me when sin was deceiving me. What a Buy Cheap generic Valtrex gift this has been to me!